Groomed

January 23, 2020

About Groomed: Overcoming the Messages That Shaped Our Past and Limit Our Future

Paperback: 208 pages

Publisher: Thomas Nelson (January 14, 2020)

Someone in your past sold you a false story about who you are and what you’re worth. It has been holding you back for too long. Take control of your future.

A staggering one out of three women in America was a victim of sexual abuse at some point in her childhood. No matter how many years it’s been, if that’s your story, those scars are probably still with you. But even if that’s not part of your story, this book is for you. Women today have been groomed for a lot more than just sex.

Using her own story of abuse, family tragedy, and rebellion, Elizabeth Melendez Fisher guides readers toward an understanding that grooming is oftentimes subtle, but it’s always life-altering. In Groomed Fisher incorporates the language and lessons gained over the past decade working with sex trafficking victims and her work in ministry and counseling before that. She draws out five specific ways that women have been groomed, from physical appearance to spirituality to finances, and shows how those manipulative messages have affected the way we see our worth and how they’ve oftentimes stifled and limited us. From there Fisher offers readers a way to overcome their past, starting with the all-important but rarely explored idea of a selah, or a time of rest and reflection, and exploring active ways to forgive and move forward to a new level of freedom.

No one has to be defined by her past. No one has to live for her groomers. It’s time to take a look back at where we came from to escape the messages of our past and take control of our future.

My Review

When I hear the word "groomed" I do associate it to bad people. There are your pimps and abusers. Which in a way these two categories can be mutually the same. In this book author, Elizabeth explores all the ways that people are groomed. This book particularly focuses on the grooming of abusers and sheds attention on human sex trafficking.

This book is broken out into three different sections: We've all been groomed, What are you groomed for, and Leaving the life. Each section consists of multiple chapters details more about each topic. This book really makes you stop, think, and process everything you are reading. In fact, you may find yourself really parts over several times just because you are soaking in everything that you are reading.

I applaud people like Elizabeth for helping to shine attention on human sex trafficking. It is a nationally wide spread issue that more people need to be aware of. It does not just happen in other countries but in the US as well. It could even be happening in your town. Thus the training that truck drivers are receiving to help recognize signs of victims.

If you want to help, check out https://www.dhs.gov/blue-campaign/what-human-trafficking or to make a report call 1-866-347-2423.

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About Elizabeth Melendez Fisher Good

ELIZABETH MELENDEZ FISHER GOOD is the CEO and Co-Founder of Selah Freedom and the Selah Way Foundation, which exist to end sexual abuse, exploitation, and sex trafficking. Her leadership has brought freedom to thousands of American children and young adults who have been rescued from sexual slavery, and she has helped educate millions on the topics of leadership, exploitation and sex trafficking. Learn more at FreewithE.com.