Title: Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age
Author: Nancy Friday
Genre: Non Fiction
The bestselling author of My Secret Garden exposes the wild and sexy fantasies that many of us have but are afraid to share.
For over thirty years, Nancy Friday has written about eros, love, beauty, and seduction. Now she returns to the territory she pioneered during the sexual revolution—exploring our most taboo sexual desires. Fans of Fifty Shades of Grey will love this provocative collection of real fantasies from dozens of women—and for the first time, men. Friday knows that forbidden sex “gets us higher faster” and explores love, lust and power through erotic tales of domination, masturbation, S&M, threesomes, and more.
Over thirty-five years ago, I called it My Secret Garden because collecting fantasies was like listening to women whispering in my ear. I was hearing their deepest erotic secrets—in many cases, desires they had not even told themselves until then. Still today, many women and men finish by saying, “Thank you for letting me tell you.”
I know precisely what they mean. There is something about putting sex into writing, almost as if we are taking it to the next level of reality, getting closer and closer to the flame. At the same time, it is emboldening, as in: “This is who I am—who I really am! And look…the sky hasn’t fallen, I haven’t been ostracized from the family, and I feel more complete, whole, part of the human race.”
Before the sexual revolution of the twentieth century, most women denied their erotic fantasies. Young adults today find that hard to believe. Where did these forbidden, unacceptable fantasies go after they were enjoyed, these rich erotic thoughts that accompanied our sex? Can the mind actually entertain a sexual fantasy during intercourse or masturbation and then erase it post-orgasm?
I thought I’d heard everything with regard to my favorite subject until I received this missive in 2002 from a twenty-three-year-old English woman:
“Dear Nancy, I always thought it was only famous, rich, successful—as in some way privileged women—who had sexual fantasies. Finding out that so many ORDINARY WOMEN [her caps] enjoy sex so much is a fantastic thing to know. It makes me feel so much better to realize that anyone can have a great sex life.”
Such a funny, sweet thought makes me want to put my arm around the dear girl and welcome her into the club.
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Nancy Friday's successful fantasy revelations have seen her placed among 'the feminist erotic pioneers'. Her writings argue that women have often been reared under an ideal of womanhood which was outdated and restrictive, and largely unrepresentative of many women's true inner lives, and that openness about women's hidden lives could help free women to truly feel able to enjoy being themselves. She asserts that this is not due to deliberate malice, but due to social expectation, and that for women's and men's benefit alike it is healthier that both be able to be equally open, participatory and free to be accepted for who and what they are.a Rafflecopter giveaway